I was out on a gorgeous nature walk with my friends Taslim and Salma a few weeks ago and during our walk, we had a really meaningful conversation about guilt, and worrying about what other people may think about how we live our lives. In fact, the fact that we were able to go for a walk during the day with one another has made us feel guilty at times. Instead, we have felt like we should be working/hustling instead of going on a leisure walk, and that feeling really stems from worrying about what other people may think.
When we began to verbalize this thought process to one another, it sounded ridiculous. We shouldn’t have to feel guilt or shame for doing things that make us happy. Yet, we do at times. As if spending time in nature connecting with our friends is a BAD thing!
And then I realized through our conversation that no matter what we choose to do with our time, someone will have an opinion about it.
But we can’t let that stop us from doing the things that fill us up on the inside.
Please know that it’s ok to take a walk in the forest with your girlfriends in the middle of the week during the day and…it’s ok to go for lunch afterward too. Its ok to go and get your hair done, and it’s ok to fit in some exercise.
Heck, it’s ok to do the things that make you HAPPY!
All of this is OK because at the end of this life we’re not going to regret the time we spent in nature or the time we spent connecting with our friends, or the time we spent taking care of ourselves.
But we WILL regret “hustling” to the point of burnout, and we WILL regret not living the life we truly wanted to live because we were too busy worrying what other people may think.
Could you imagine, if I said to my friends today, “Sorry girls I can’t make it for our walk today. I feel guilty because I should be hustling, and I also don’t want people to see me on a beautiful walk with a waterfall because it might make them think I live a life of luxury.”
Sounds really silly, doesn’t it?
But I know I’m not alone in these silly thoughts.
Yes, this is life and we will have to choose work some days over hanging out with our friends, or something may come up and we can’t fit our workout in.
But the point of this blog post is this: Make the time to do the things that make your soul happy because at the end of this life you won’t look back and regret it.