My path to more happiness
In the new year, my guiding words were, Do less, and live with less so I can FOCUS more. I wrote about my guiding words here.
I’m pleased to say now that it’s June (and we’re half way through the year), I don’t feel as overwhelmed as I once did. I don’t feel like my body is in constant fight or flight mode. I haven’t had a flare-up from my autoimmune disease in a while and my brain doesn’t feel as scattered as it once was. I will always have a bit of mom-brain but, I’m ultimately feeling happier! I’m doing less, which in turn helps me focus and live in accordance with my values.
Learning to say no
In all honesty, doing less wasn’t easy at first and I still find myself feeling guilty or struggling at times when I say no. Sometimes I still have fear of missing out or sometimes I feel guilt when I say no to attending media events followed by fear that I may not get invited anymore. Furthermore, the fear that used to plague me (recovering people pleaser) was the fear that I may not be liked if I say no!
The thing is; saying no has helped me do things that I really want to do as opposed to doing things I don’t really want to do and then feel “stressed” because I basically said yes, only to please others and not to please myself!
I’m learning that living a more simple life makes me happier. I don’t have to be everywhere, and doing everything in order to be liked, feel valued, or perceived as successful.
Most importantly, I don’t want my daughters to have to learn how to say no at my age! I want them to have the self-confidence to be able to do it now! Of course, I want them to be yes people too. I don’t want fear to hold them back from trying things out or from opportunities that will help their growth. Unfortunately, I began to see my people pleasing tendencies were starting to show in them. I could see my daughter saying yes to things she didn’t want to and then she would feel upset because she said yes when she really wanted to say no. This made me really sad and also made me realize that when I began saying no, I wasn’t just saying yes to me, but I was also modeling to my daughters the importance of staying true to oneself.
Being “busy” wasn’t making me feel good on the inside.
It was actually giving me anxiety and affecting my health. Other people perceived me as this prolific super mom blogger and at times having this status made me feel like I was on top of the world. Being able to get still, however, and evaluate what’s truly important to me wasn’t easy. I noticed when I had to be with myself the truth would arise and sometimes I would want to run away from these uncomfortable feelings. I would find ways to be busy so that I didn’t have to face these feelings. However, being still is how I began to have this self-awareness! It’s been super empowering to feel the sense of clarity that has been a result of simplifying some aspects of my life.
Furthermore, living with less has also helped me feel more organized in my home which leaves more time in my life to enjoy more of the little things. I’ve realized stuff only makes me happy momentarily but the things I choose to do with my time every day and the memories I’m creating hold so much more significance to me.
You know those everyday simple pleasures that we can tend to take for granted? I was doing things in such a scattered rushing state All. The. Time. Therefore, I was completely oblivious to how impactful slowing down is on my overall wellbeing. In other words, I wasn’t taking the time to slow down and enjoy the moments. The moments that I’ll look back on one day and wish I did.
Trying to do way too many things at the same time was exhausting and left me feeling scattered which made life feel like complete chaos!
Needless to say, this past couple of months made me realize I no longer need to wear busy like a badge of honor to feel good on the inside!
The effect simplifying has had on my family
Simplifying has also had a positive impact on my family because I’ve become more present, and less irritable. I’m making time again to run, which I hope shows my girls how important it is to take time out for yourself. Moreover, because life is less chaotic (this is where being a #SchickAmbassador totally comes into effect) I have more time to do simple things like… shave! No more prickly legs and armpits because I’m finally giving myself those few extra minutes to take care of me. It really is a great feeling!
Simplifying truly does have the potential to deliver the happiest moments to me and my family because when mommas happy, everyone’s happy!
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