As the new year approaches, I’ve reflected on this past year. Mostly, I’ve been pondering the things that made me feel good within, and truthfully I’ve been thinking about the things that didn’t.
Last year I wrote a post about the things that brought more joy into my life, and how going into 2015 I would be making an effort to practice these things more.
I’m only human, and there were some days I slipped into old habits or even created new ones that ultimately didn’t make me feel good on the inside.
For this reason, I’ve compiled a list of the things I’m most proud of this past year and…the things I am not.
Going into 2016 I will be doing more of the things that my intuition/gut tell me felt good on the inside and learning from the things that didn’t.
Some of the things I am most proud of this past year include:
I trained and ran in my very first half marathon. It wasn’t easy waking up early on Saturday mornings and training for a few hours in the rain. It was however, all worth it when I crossed the finish line. You can read about my experience here. All of the hard work paid off, and seeing my family waiting for me at the finish line was one of the best feelings I’ve ever felt. Perhaps I should register for another race in 2016!
Since as far back as I can remember, I’ve wanted to be on a stage inspiring an audience. In 2015, I did just that. I got up on a stage at She Talks and I spoke to almost 600 people about feeling good enough. It was probably one of the scariest things I’ve ever done, but when I was up there on the stage, I felt like it was exactly where I was meant to be. It felt natural. It felt empowering. It was a first I’ll never forget. You can read about my experience here. I hope to continue on this path of motivational public speaking in 2016.
My daughters and I took part in an empowering bathing suit photo shoot with Raw Beauty Talks. We took photos in our swimsuits in hopes to inspire others to embrace their already perfect ‘beach bodies’. It was such an honor to be involved as a family. This experience together brought up a conversation with my daughters about confidence and positive body image which is so important, especially for our next generation to talk about. You can read about our experience here.
In 2016, I will continue this conversation with my daughters, through my writing, speaking, and teaching.
I was asked to become a workshop facilitator with Sole Girls. Giving moms the tools to communicate, and better understand their tween daughters emotions, anxiety, and emotional/physical changes. Being with fellow moms of girls and discussing and practicing ways to enhance our relationships and help our daughters overall well-being, feels so good on the inside. I’m looking forward to facilitating more workshops in 2016.
Reading more! Yes, this past year I made time to read more books, mostly non-fiction, but it felt so good to fill my bookshelf, and my brain with more knowledge. I know this one sounds simple, but when you have three kids, carving out time to read isn’t always easy. It is however, always worth it.
Side note: A friend of mine read her height in books last year! Since seeing that, I’m motivated to try this for 2016!
I made more personal connections this past year. It felt amazing to connect with so many like-minded women and men. Life really boils down to relationships. You can read a post I wrote about making personal connections here.
The things I am least proud of:
Putting myself last.
This past year was a busy one, and unfortunately in the process of raising the girls, taking care of the household, working from home, making personal connections, etcetera, I ended up making myself my last priority. I was fully aware I was doing it, but I kept going until my body basically burnt out. You can read about my hypothyroidism disease here.
In 2016, I will be making self-care my number one priority because I can not take care of anyone or anything else unless I take care of myself first.
Feelings of not doing enough
It took a scare in our family for me to replace anxious feelings with gratitude. I’m not proud of the anxiety I felt about not doing enough and it’s unfortunate that it took my husband near drowning experience for me to wake up!
Life is so precious and this past Summer when my husband almost drowned, it gave our family a heavy dose of perspective. It was a game changer for us to focus on the things in life that truly count. You can read about our experience here.
In 2016, my mantra is “DO LESS, FOCUS MORE.” I’ll be focusing more on my values and top priorities so I can stay focused and organized. This past year my brain felt more scattered than usual, and I know it was the result of trying to do all. I would rather focus on a few things whole heartedly than doing a bunch of things half-ass.
Saying yes, because I feel ‘bad’
I’m guilty of saying yes to things, when I really want to say no. I did this many times this past year. In fact, this is another large reason why I ended up putting myself last. I let the guilt get the best of me when I truthfully wanted to say no to something. As a result, I would end up feeling resentful for saying yes.
Needless to say, in 2016, I’ll be saying no to the things I don’t want to do, because that is an act of self-love. And I’ll be saying yes to the things I do want to do, and… I’ll try my hardest not to feel bad! I’ll just have to remind myself of one of my favorite quotes, “You can’t please everyone, you’re not a nutella jar!”
All in all, 2015 has been another amazing year full of life lessons, and I’m ready for more self-love, focus, and love; loving myself, my family, my friends, my work, and my LIFE in 2016.
Thanks for following along as I aspire to create a life that feels good on the inside.
Cheers to a wonderful 2016 of self-love, growth, saying yes to the things you want and focusing on the things in life that count.