Recently something exciting happened for me. When I found out the news, I was feeling so overwhelmed with joy, that I messaged my husband right away to tell him. I also messaged a few close friends with my news and they were just as happy for me as I was with myself. However, the joyful emotion that I was feeling about my exciting news, started to turn into the exact opposite emotion. The emotion of fear with all of its self-limiting beliefs and worry started to seep in. How could this be? How could something that I’ve been wanting, make me feel so fearful? I began to sink in fear. Every time I would try to swim to the top of where I could see the light, a wave of fear would crash me back down, telling me that I wasn’t good enough to be up there. Although I was excited about what was at the top, my fears kept drowning me.
Fear does this. It thrives on comfort. It hates the unknown. Fear will tell you the exact opposite of what you need to hear, simply because fear doesn’t want you to grow!
A friend told me that the fear that I was sinking in, was actually a “good” fear. Well, it definitely didn’t feel good. However, she was absolutely right. The fear that I was feeling wasn’t dangerous. In fact, I wasn’t in danger at all.
The fear that I was feeling was fear of failure. What if it doesn’t work out? What if people hate it? I don’t deserve this opportunity. These fear waves kept crashing on me, bringing and sinking me further and further into belief. I started to believe my fears, and as a result, when friends would ask about my exciting news or congratulate me, I would talk it down and make it seem like it wasn’t that big of a deal. In fact, I didn’t really want to talk about it at all anymore. I began to push-off doing what I was once so excited to do.
When I procrastinated and stopped talking about the exciting opportunity, the more my thoughts became immersed in the opportunity itself. This is what happens when you are fueled by a passion for something. You can’t make it go away! Finally, I faced my “good” fear head on, and wrote my very first post for Vancity Buzz!!!!
Man, that felt good, to just put that out there.
My exciting news is that I am now a contributor for Vancity Buzz! My first post isn’t live yet, but I will be sure to let you know when it is.
Less than a year ago, I set out on a mission to write. I wanted to go back to my inner girl who loved to write, share my voice and inspire others to style their lives within. This is when Styling The Inside, emerged. Within a couple of months, I was nominated one of the top thirty mom bloggers on vancouvermom.ca and then a couple of months later, nominated for the Leading mom award. This journey has brought many opportunities my way, in such a short amount of time. I am humbled and full of gratitude.
Along with this journey, I have faced many fears. Aha! That is what my friend meant about “good” fear. It’s that vulnerability that hits you like a wave, that you just have to embrace because it can take you for a ride, that you never imagined.
If there’s something happening in your life that is exciting, yet scary, share the excitement! When you talk about the very thing that you fear, the fear slowly decreases, and joy takes over.